Pauline Ryeland

Pussy Talks – What’s It All About?

flower vag 2 Episode 4, 28 March 2017

In this interview I talk with Special Guest, The Pussy Talks:  The Production of Peace on Earth Founder, Mukee Okan.

Mukee Okan is the creator of The Pussy Talks™ and is the embodiment of what life looks like when humanity is free from sexual shame.

In this episode, we talked about what The Pussy Talks is all about. Which is

• Enhancing the sexual well being of humanity. 
• That is possible being at peace with the power of sex
• What is possible for you, your life, your relationships? 
• How your sexual energy is your most potent and natural healing medicine


A documentary with a Very Big difference?


The documentary shows up close footage of women’s vulva’s with the woman talking about her pussy and her relationship to it as well as asking what her pussy would like to say. It’s incredible on many levels as women connect to their genitals, feel into their experience and share from a very personal and sometimes vulnerable place.

The beauty with this documentary is that it shows the varieties of women’s vulvas and how each has their own individuality in relation to what their inner labia looks like and their clitoris.

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I believe everyone who watches the pussy talks will learn a great deal, not only about “pussy’s”, they will also have huge takeaways about their own relationship to vulvas’s, whether it’s their own or others in general.

For more information about this please go to 

A Shamanic Native American Indian Teaching


I also ask about Mukee’s role as a teacher of the Quodoshka teachings and what it’s all about. Quodoshka is a matriarchal shamanic lineage, teaching which in essence is the understanding of how our sexual energy is our life force.

Quodoshka 1 is based on what was the rights of passage for young boys and girls transitioning into adult women and men and focuses on self. Learning to let go of past experiences.

Quodoshka 2 is more about the balance of the masculine and the feminine within and without, not your sexual preference. It’s about relating to the receptive and active side in relating to the world. Learning to let go of the future focus and the angry man and woman.

Quodoshka 3 is how you function in relationship and laying aside the past and future and being present with your partner and yourself in all aspects of your being.

The Quodoshka teachings are worldwide and have been taught for over 30 years. 

We also discussed her being a part of the Institute of Professional Surrogates Association in California and what this role entails as a therapist, involving sensate focus practices.

Mukee has over 30 years experience in the areas of sex, sex education, coaching and is a wealth of information. It was such an honour to talk with her this morning and I am very grateful for having met Mukee in 2009 at a Quodoshka workshop, which had a profound effect on me and put me on this path that I am currently on as a sexual educator and coach.

It is a fabulous conversation!

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LGBTI…Clinical Sexologist…What’s It All About?

papers in the colors of gay pride flag with pink heart Episode 3, 14 Febuary 2017 – Coach on Fire Radio

In this episode you will find out as I interview Richelle Menzies who works extensively in the LGBTI community, working as an Inclusivity Consultant. She travels around Australia, offering trainings, workshops and education.

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This was an information packed show with loads of information.  Richelle has a vast knowledge of all things related to the LGBTI community and shared numerous organisations where people can obtain support for their particular situation.  Whether it’s a young person confused about gender or sexuality or parents wanting to understand more and support.

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We also discussed what a Clinical Sexologist is and the differences between this and a Sexological Body Worker.  All round it was a fabulous conversation and showed what a huge wealth of knowledge Richelle has, due to her working within the community and health sector for over 10 years plus in a variety of roles within Qld Aids.

We talked about Richelle’s extensive contribution, working as a volunteer for many years and the awards of recognition she has received.

I asked what drives her, especially as she starts her new chapter, moving into private practice within the next year as a Clinical Sexologist.

“I would like people to feel confident that with support sexual issues can be overcome, they can remain erotic and intimate for as long as they desire, that diversity in identity, lifestyle and relationships is part of the wonderful tapestry of life, that nothing is too scary to talk about, they are not abnormal or alone and that help is out there,” says Richelle.

I love the connection we have and I have a feeling that we may just do something together in a working capacity down the track.

It’s a very interesting and informative interview, so check it out.

Shamanic Midwifery and Ecstatic Birth

Newborn infant swaddled against a mother's breast


Episode 2, 31st January 2017 – Coach on Fire Radio

In this episode I interview Avalon Darnesh who is a Multidimensional Mother, Shamanic Birthkeeper and Feminine Visionary, inspiring soulful mothers to unlock their inner wisdom and reclaim their sexual power to ecstatically birth babies in the highest vibration of love, and birth new aspects of themselves

Here is the link to this episode:–episode-2


What on earth does that all mean?


Well if you’re curious….I suggest you tune in and have a listen to the recording.  We did have a bit of technical trouble at the beginning, however the interview does settle in beautifully.

It was fabulous talking with Avalon and we could have talked for hours. She is a very switched on young woman that is very much in touch with the mind, body and spirit connection and how that plays out through pregnancy and birth. We talk about intimacy and sex during pregnancy as well as afterwards.

What I loved about this interview is firstly how easy it was to talk with Avalon and it felt like we were old friends. Some of the highlights for me were:

  • I loved that we looked at how birth can be done in a very different way to how it generally is and how it is usually portrayed.
  • How pregnancy and birth can encompass the mind, body, spirit connection to allow for this amazing experience to transcend all other experiences.
  • How a woman can tap into their sexuality and bring that into the birthing experience
  • Having a better understanding of what happens in the body through pregnancy and birth on all levels.
  • Having open conversations pre-pregnancy at how intimacy and sex can potentially look throughout the pregnancy and early baby days.

So if that’s intrigued you then, here’s the link again:–episode-2

“Birth is the ultimate sexual opening and a gateway into deeper levels of sensual embodiment and intuition. Everything you need is already within you. By learning how to be fully present to what is arising, and feel uncomfortable feelings without denying or distracting them, you have the capacity to heal and evolve into your highest potential. Birth is an opportunity for a total nervous system upgrade and deepening into more of your love and sexuality as a woman,” says Avalon.
After escaping an abusive relationship and becoming a single mother, Avalon studied Holistic Psychology, Counselling, Rebirthing and Shamanic Midwifery to heal herself and support other women to reclaim their feminine power.

Kink, BDSM & Adult Fantasy Play


leather cuffs and a whip on a chainEpisode 1, 17 January 2017

In this Virgin Premiere show I interview Aleena Aspley, who is a Somatic Sexologist and the owner of Kinkassage®.

Here’s the link:  (please note there a few ads at the start)

Intrigued? Curious?


So was I and I wanted to explore with Aleena a little bit about her world and how she brings this to her clients. She incorporates the Kink & Bondage worlds with erotic massage all designed to open the client up to experiencing pleasure in ways they have not experienced it before.

We talk in depth about her business and what’s involved with her work. What I love about this interview is that our conversation is so natural and just flows. We both just happen to work in the world of intimacy and sex and it’s all just another day for us.

This was definately an intriguing, steamy and thought provoking episode with an honest and open discussion about sex.

In this episode, learn;

• What Kinkassage® and Domme Kinkassage® is?
• BDSM & Kink is all about in all it’s forms
• The mindset of those involved in BDSM & Kink.
• How men can be multi orgasmic

We also discuss how people can start playing in this area at home and provide some great starting points which include:

– How to play safely
– How communication is essential
– How to discuss your requirements as the receiver and giver
– Being clear with your agreements

If these guidelines are not set up then trust cannot be there and this is paramount for this type of play.

We also talk about how the person receiving can go into a very altered state and how important the after care is.

So have I sparked your interest? Do you want to find out more?


Well dive in and have a listen to this interview:  (please note there a few ads at the start)

Let me know what you think?

What I love about this interview is that:

– We talk so openly about sex in all aspects
– We could explore the world of BDSM & Kink and talk about different aspects of that
– That we were able to provide some guidelines to begin these practices at home safely
– We talked about the fact that men can be multi orgasmic and what that looks like
– Plus we touched on a few other topics as well!

Have a listen and then let me know what you think. I’d love to hear your feedback.

Next interview will be announced shortly on Facebook and will be live on Tuesday, 31st January at 9am Qld time and 3pm USA.

PS: If there are any topics you’d like discussed, please let me know. And if you have someone you think that would be great for me to interview, please also let me know. xx

Pussy Play – A Workshop for Men



There really is so much more to turning your woman on than just rubbing away in that one spot & going in & out…in & out…in & out…

In this really fun workshop you will:

* Become empowered with your exploration of the feminine
* Learn what really turns us on
* Have a better understanding of the female anatomy and how to turn us on in ways they didn’t know were possible!
* Learn heaps of sexy cool things you can do to bring more intimacy and more arousal for both of you
* Go hunting & find where that Gspot is hiding & tips to awaken it
* Find out some amazing techniques for giving your woman the most mind blowing oral sex ever, that will have her begging you for more

Plus learn some new techniques to bring more arousal to your own body

Plus all your questions around sex answered and so much more!

There will be no nudity or sexually explicit practice, however you will need to bring a towel 🙂

Bookings essential: AMAZING VALUE AT ONLY $69.00

Book via Eventbrite:

Penis Play – A Workshop for Women



There is so much more to turning your man on than just going up & down… up & down…up & down! In this really fun workshop you will:

* Become confident with penis touch
* Learn heaps of amazing techniques to awaken his pleasure more
* Learn some super sexy cool things you can do to bring more intimacy
* Find out some amazing techniques for giving your man the most mind blowing oral sex ever!

Plus learn more about your own arousal system, how it works and how you can learn new ways to turn yourself on even more!

Plus all your questions around sex answered and so much more!

There will be no nudity or sexually explicit practice.

BYO VIBRATOR (Carrots will be supplied!)

This will a fun and informative workshop

Bookings essential: AMAZING VALUE AT ONLY $69.00!

Bookings via Eventbrite:


Sexual Awakening


Presentation at Aminya College, Marcoola

Tuesday, 25th October 7pm to 8pm

Awaken the Sexy Goddess & unleash the Potent Man within!

Fully embrace your inner fire & ignite your sexual potential to become the sexual beings you are meant to be. In this juicy presentation you will learn simple but powerful exercises to awaken your own Sexual Energy. Mindful erotic practices will enhance your sexual connection to self and bring new awareness & understanding to connect to the more intimate part of your essence. When you can tap into that “place” and fully connect to self, imagine how amazing it will be when you connect with another! Guaranteed, this will be a fun & informative talk that will truly awaken you.

Please arrive 6:45pm for start at 7pm.  Stay for refreshments afterwards.

Cost $15 – bookings essential:

What’s a Sex Headache?

young upset couple lying in a bed having problem

young upset couple lying in a bed having problem

Well it’s true sex headaches exist and it’s not the old saying of “honey, not tonight, I’ve got a headache”.

Sex headaches can be completely debilitating and there are 2 types of sex headaches. It can start as a dull ache in the head and neck which can intensify as sexual excitement increases. Or it can be a sudden severe throbbing headache that occurs just before or at orgasm. Unfortunately, sometimes both types can occur at once. These headaches can last anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours and in extreme cases several days.

This would be enough to put anyone off having sex!


What Can You Do About it?

If this is occurring the first thing to do is to see a doctor so they can run tests to ensure that there is no bleeding from the brain or any other problems with the vessels in the brain.

Other contributing causes can be glaucoma, strokes, coronary arterial dysfunction and sinus infections.
Other side symptoms can be vomiting, visual and sensory loss and motor disturbances.

What Things Put You at Potential Risk?

Some of the risk factors can be obesity, stress, migraine history, history of arterial disease, marijuana, amyl nitrate and some other drugs can contribute as well as obesity.

What can be done?

How can you treat these awful sex headaches. Well conventional medicine will give you a range of medications which may or may not help.

When I’ve been presented with this problem, I look at the person’s history, when it started to see if there are emotional patterns that are contributing as well as any history of surgeries, injuries or falls and what condition the neck and tail bone are in. There could potentially be internal adhesions which can travel from the site of injury through layers of muscle and tissues and can attach to ligaments, joints, fascia and tendons. These can create all sorts of issues within the body and could be a contributing factor.

How do they express their orgasm?


I would also want to know the sexual and orgasmic history. Most people, when they orgasm, clench their jaw, hold their breath and tighten their body. I would look at teaching how to connect more into the sexual energy using breath and movement to allow the body to open more rather than contract, which will allow the blood to flow through the body as well as allowing the sexual energy to flow more.

Get in The Body and not the Head

When you learn to connect into your body more, you become more present and aware which can help you to see how you are blocking the flow of energy and this will reduce the “sex headaches” and alleviate them all together.

If you experience this problem, please connect with me Intimacy Whisperer ®

How Tantra Can Benefit Your Relationship


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People often hear the term Tantra, but really have no idea what it’s all about. I usually explain that there are several layers to Tantra. One way, is that it’s a way of deepening your connection with your partner through a series of exercises. The exercises and techniques are incredibly simple, yet extremely profound. They bring you into greater presence within yourself, which then allows you to connect to a deeper place with your partner. There are communication exercises which re-ignites your love and passion for each other by honouring each other and renewing respect. Some of the exercises involve some touch and breath as well. The intention behind all of the activities is to create a deeper and more intimate relationship as well as creating better communication skills.

Without communication, there is no real intimacy & without intimacy, there is no sex


Many Layers to Tantra

The other layer to Tantra is learning new ways to expand your sexual experience through a variety of techniques to work with the sexual energy so that you can experience more in your orgasmic pleasure. This is done through teaching different breathing patterns, combined with certain movements. When we start to play with breath we are learning to manipulate the Autonomic Nervous System, to bring about different experiences for yourself.

tantra-love-sex-intimacyTantra is the Energy of Love

The word Tantra is Sanskrit from the sacred language of Hinduism. It comes from the word tan, which really translates to expanding and extending, spreading, weaving or manifesting. So like the world we live in, Tantra is the continual expansion of energy, spreading out like a cosmic wave which is made up of different energies.

When we learn to work with this sexual energy and engage intimately we learn how to surrender to our body. By letting go of our minds we can learn to ride this energy which then brings a new dimension into our sexual experience.

Tantra is a journey and when we are fully present within ourselves, we can connect to our partner in this way it gives a very different experience. When you set an intention and bring awareness to everything you do….how you touch, how you feel, how you breathe, how you smell and taste as well as how you engage or connect with your partner, it opens your body to experience more.

By using breath in sexual practice it allows the “prana” or life force to flow through our body and this energy can take you to a higher spiritual place.

Tantra is where spiritual and sexual energies go hand in hand


It’s being in your truth around everything, your feelings and emotions which then effects how you communicate with your partner on all levels, not just sexually.

When you are consciously working with your sexual energy it’s very different to just having sex, it goes beyond that. It can open both men and women to experiencing more in their orgasmic experience. In time you can experience and feel the energy circulating through yourself and your body will start to respond differently.

The Final Layer

The final layer to Tantra is learning how to really awaken the genitals to the fullest. So many people do not understand how the arousal system for both men and women work and so there are many techniques that can be applied to the genitals to bring about more pleasure.

Tantra is a pathway to another world that engages and connects you, physically, spiritually & emotionally firstly to yourself and then to your partner. So why would you not want to try Tantra to either save your relationship or to enhance an already fantastic one!

If you are curious to learn more, then come and check out my workshop, “Connecting Deeper” – A workshop for couples. Here is the link on Eventbrite

Please ensure you email me your phone number so I can advise of the venue location.

Intimacy After Pregnancy

Intimacy Saving your sex life after have a baby can be a challenge. Suddenly you are a mum and have new demands on you and your body. Your relationship to your sexuality changes and your focus is solely on your baby. You have days where you are exhausted and don’t even get to have a shower, let alone get dressed. These are things that are going to contribute to you not feeling interested, let alone sexy.

Some of the challenges you may be experiencing

* Hormones all over the place
* Sleep deprived
* Confusion
* Guilt
* Disconnected from your partner
* Possible prolapse
* Scar tissue from having an episotomy or an C-section and other birth injuries
* Traumatic or painful birth
* Depression
* Breast feeding problems
* Complete lack of libido
* Fatigue
* Birth plan, not going to plan

What About Including Sex in your Birth Plan

It would be fantastic if part of the birth plan was to have a discussion around how to remain intimate and reconnect sexually after baby, but for some reason that is usually completely over looked by everyone.

Feeling Left Out

Your partner is possibly feeling a little excluded and confused as well. He wants to have sex but is scared it will hurt you. Maybe you’ve tried to have sex and it was painful, so you’re scared to go there again. (Please do not put up with having painful sex, this can complicate things further down the track and you may need to see a Sexological Body worker). Also when a new baby arrives, mums are usually consumed with them and so your conversations with your partner are solely about baby things and not much else.

How to get passed the problem


The first thing is to acknowledge how you are both feeling and to talk about it. It might not fix the situation but at least it’s being discussed and not ignored. This way both partner’s feel they are being heard. Often women want to have intimacy and sex, but something has shifted and they don’t want it the same way they used to any more. It’s important to be able to talk about all of these things and to actually say what you are wanting. Often it’s a good idea to take penetrative sex off the table for awhile and also have less focus on orgasm and ejaculation and look at new ways to connect and slowly rebuild the intimacy again which will then lead to penetrative sex when the time is right.

Sometims you have to work at re-creating intimacy



Don’t dump on your partner the minute they get home, you may have had a tough day and be lacking sleep however they possibly are also lacking sleep and have had a stressful day out in the world working at what they do.  Give them space too to unwind from their day before asking for help.  Create space to connect together – have a big heart felt hug. Breathe together and discuss what works for you, what you require and create agreements about how to move forward with ease and grace

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