MY BRUSH WITH THE RED ROOM & 50 SHADES…..
EXPLANATION: I’ll admit it, I loved reading 50 shades of Grey, it was erotic, sensual, romantic, titillating, adventurous, exciting, lustful, slightly dangerous and love won over in the end. Do not be confused or fooled, the reality of the BDSM and kink world is nothing like how it is conveyed in the book, so enter with care, just as I did…..
For those of you who don’t know me, I work as an Intimacy & Sexuality Coach, Practitioner & Healer. I am about love, light, energy, healing, transformation and empowering your sexuality in a beautiful and positive way so you can live a rich and wonderfully intimate life.
WELCOME TO THE BDSM SCENE: So imagine for a moment spending the weekend in someone’s home who is not only into the BDSM kink scene but also lives in a polyamory relationship (with 2 women at the same time) in what is called a Triad.
Well that’s exactly what I did and let me tell you, it was certainly stepping way outside my comfort zone. I mean, I did read the series 50 Shades of Grey and had a little bit of basic knowledge, but let’s face it, it is not my world in any shape or form, so I really had no idea what to expect. For me it’s all about pleasure, being more into a Tantric way of living and working and living in the light with love and beautiful energy. Pain is not something I’m into, however the opportunity presented and admittedly I was naive and I was curious….
MY ARRIVAL: So I arrive at my business associates home and am introduced to his 2 girls and we sit at the table making small talk over a cup of tea. I’m a little nervous and I think the girls were a little bit too. For me it was not about judgment from me, it was about being accepting of what is their world. I started to notice a few things. One of the girls had a black collar with a round loop attached to it around her neck and every time they wanted to do something they asked “please sir, can I go to the bathroom” or “please sir, can I turn the heating on”.
So I had organised a business meeting and event which didn’t happen, the fares were booked, so I thought I’d go anyway and explore a city I’d never been to….and I had been invited to an exclusive private BDSM night! At first I thought it would be some flash nightclub in the city however soon realised after arriving that this was not the case. It was a private party in a private residence which was not lived in by the owners, but was set up exclusively for these type of nights.
DRESS UP TIME: Well I totally love the idea of a dress up, however this nights dress up had a more serious side to it. So there I am dressed in the appropriate black for the evening – corset, stockings, suspenders, boots…..yeah you get the idea & I head off with my group of 3 into the night. I was really feeling like, holy crap what the hell am I getting into here and I was feeling very nervous. I did have my credit card and money and knew if I didn’t like it or the energy was terrible, I’d call a cab and head back to where I was staying………..continued – part 2 of 7 out tomorrow……